So, a question I’ve been pondering lately. I had a wedding, August 2003. It was a beautiful day, surrounded by friends and family. The ceremony was lovely, the reception perfect – I couldn’t have asked for a better day.
One thing spoiled it. Me. I can hardly bear look at my wedding photos because I hate what I see there. I was ‘voluptuous’ (I say was, still am, and yes, voluptuous is code for fat!) – there’s no problem with that really – many larger ladies make beautiful brides. I was not one of them. My make-up was done by someone who’d be well suited to an artist on TOWIE, and this is before that dream had even been borne! I looked like a giant satsuma and boy, does that orange face glow on my pictures. And my dress… there are worse dresses but I hated it. It wasn’t the one I wanted. It didn’t make me feel special. It didn’t make me feel beautiful. So as perfect as the day was, the memory of it is spoiled for me because of how I felt and feel about myself.
So, is it greedy to have another go? I’m not talking full-on church etc. More a beach vow renewal with just DH and the girls. Something low key. Celebrate our 10 year anniversary, get some pictures to feel good about, and have that honeymoon we’ve never actually been on? A chance to do it over and fix the one thing that I wish I could do differently.
What do you think? Tacky or romantic?
I absolutely think you should have another wedding! I had 2 weddings but for slightly different reasons to you. We got married abroad as hubby’s family all live overseas, it was a very small low key affair and I didn’t really enjoy it. But 18 months later we had a proper wedding… a blessing in a lovely hotel with the wedding breakfast, evening reception, everything! I loved it! If you weren’t 100% happy with things first time, you should absolutely go for it. Renewing your vows on a beach somewhere sounds perfect xx
Thanks Debra – it sounds like your second wedding was perfect too!
Go for it! Dont listen to haters who say you must only have one wedding. its all about what makes ypu and your partner happy. i got married Legally… to immigrate to another country to see if it would even work out w my long distance lover. a year after living together it was workin out so we had a farm wedding ceremony for our close friends n fam. my hubby still wants a fun vegas elvis wedding and we are having a costa rica vow renewal with friends on the beach we met..and yes ill wear another wedding gown..celebrate love girl!!